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Sunday 18 March 2018
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In Pursuit Of Character: It Is Often Ignored Or Simply Not Understood

In Pursuit Of Character: It Is Often Ignored Or Simply Not Understood


There is one important part of character that can so easily propel you to greatness and significant achievements. It is often ignored or simply not understood.

It is the issue of self-awareness. Self- awareness is conscious knowledge of one`s own character and feelings.

To be self- aware means having a better understanding of who you are. It also means discovering your blind spots. Blind spots are those things in your personality or character that everyone knows about you… except for you. These are usually the unsavoury characteristics about you. Psychologists say that most human beings have at least three.

In this article, I share with you a few ideas that will help your journey towards self- awareness.
Be a entrepreneur who is open to criticism and advise.

Often people will avoid giving you valuable advice because they fear your response. This could mean you missing out on life changing nuggets because you become abrasive when you are criticized or you have a mental breakdown.

Have a few core friends that you know will tell you the truth about your character and personality. These should be friends that you know will tell you the truth in love even though it may hurt you. This truth, although sometimes painful to receive, may very well reveal to you why you have come short in certain situations throughout your life.

People have views and opinions that we may find strange or outright unacceptable. Instead of being too critical, take time to consider why people think the way they do. This may help you understand the way you think and sometimes help you discover the folly of your own opinions. Remember the wise words; we see the world not as it is but as we are.

Take personality tests like the Myer- Briggs or the Disc. Be honest with yourself as you take them. Also let different people take similar tests on how they see you. These tests from recognized institutions have detailed results and go a long way in helping you understand better who you are.

Many a time we don’t know our strengths or we down play them. Yet these strengths are so often the ones that help us have a breakthrough. Imagine going into a tense business meeting. Your sense of humour can lighten the mood, change the atmosphere therefore resulting in progress being made.

Some daily habits that we must adopt are deliberately having times of meditation, reflection and journaling. I meditate during the early hours of the morning in order to avoid the mad rush that occurs when everyone else wakes up. It is during this time I will ponder upon the person I truly am, want to become and what actions I need to take. At the end of the day I will have a time of reflection.

Here I look at my conduct during the day and how I responded to the different experiences I went through. I ask myself what I could have done better and how I will respond going forward.

Journaling puts your thoughts in writing and also inform you of your emotions at the time of writing.

As you go through self- awareness write down a few values that are important to you and that will help you become the person that you desire. Read these values every day and consciously remind yourself that they are what make you who you are.

Finally, it is important to note that self-awareness is not an event but a journey. It’s a process that is worthwhile and whose results will help you become the best person you can possibly become.


Stirling Gapara was born and raised in Zimbabwe. In Zimbabwe, he worked for Universal Leaf Tobacco, a leading international tobacco company where he rose to the position of Sales Leader. In 2007 Stirling moved to Uganda to work for another international tobacco firm, Leaf Tobacco and Commodities. There he held the position of GLT Operations Manager until 2014. After leaving Leaf Tobacco, Stirling founded Stirling Leadership Consults where he is the Managing Director. Stirling has always had a passion for leadership. He has held several leadership positions in both the corporate and non- corporate sectors. Currently, he sits on the board of Acacia International School in Kampala and is also President of the Parents Council. He is the vice president of Kampala Toastmasters. He also sits on the alumni board for the Institute for National Transformation. Stirling is a member of the John Maxwell Team. He is an avid reader, a keen sports fan and a keep fit enthusiast. He is married to Vimbai and together they have 3 children.