Sunday 18 April 2021
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Effects Of Unresolved Trauma: A Hand To Help You Walk Out

Effects Of Unresolved Trauma: A Hand To Help You Walk Out


In this series we are discussing the effects of unresolved child trauma and encouraging that, should this at some point come to surface, it is best to seek help.

Our minds have a coping mechanism and often, suppress these emotions caused by childhood trauma. Simple events such as mother’s day, father’s day, and social gatherings can open up these once forgotten scars.

A colleague of mine, a social worker once had to deal with a person (who we will call Crag in this article) at the blink of losing his job. A total change of character and a careless attitude had just creeped in.

Three to four counselling sessions and hey, I am back.

The rejection and earlier abuse in the absence of dear mother and a father who were never a part of Crag’s life from early childhood, suddenly brought sadness and a feeling of being unloved.

Helping him revisit his past and interpreting his early childhood helped him to work on forgiveness and ultimately developing a much healthier self-concept. This had a positive impact in the workplace and he began to excel.

A hand to help you walk out of an undesirable situation is always a wise option.

Every day, entrepreneurs are inundated with decisions, big and small. Understanding how people arrive at their choices is an area of cognitive psychology that has received attention.

Theories have been generated to explain how people make decisions, and what types of factors influence decision making in the present and future. Understanding the factors that influence decision making process is important to understanding what decisions are made. That is, the factors that influence the process may impact the outcomes.

Factors that influence decision making may include:

  • past experience
  • cognitive biases
  • age
  • individual
  • personal beliefs
  • escalation of commitment,

Individuals who have experienced chronic and high levels of early life stress (ELS) exposure are at increased risk for a wide range of behavioural problems that begin in childhood and continue to increase throughout their lives. I believe that this is poorly understood and so in this article, I hope to focus more on the effects that childhood trauma has on adults and how it impacts on decision making.

Understanding the roots

Children who experience trauma grow up to be adults who have experienced trauma. The brain is structurally affected by trauma and in turn such issues influence our behaviours and decision making leading also to addictions.

Some of the roots of addictions

  • rejection
  • fear
  • shame
  • abuse (sexual, spiritual, physical and emotional)
  • grief
  • hereditary

Consequently, people who are not able to overcome the effects of childhood trauma often waste their human potential on:

  • substance abuse (and other addictions)
  • illegal and illicit lifestyles

They may end up in prison, uneducated, or develop self-destructive behaviour. They often struggle with poor learning and social skills and are not able to be successful in life. However, some individuals do succeed.

Decision-making is a crucial part of running a successful business as an entrepreneur. Within companies, there are frequently different people who are directly in charge of plotting the course of operations. Chief financial officers, chief executive officers, chief operational officers – they all have different responsibilities and roles, but they must also work together in order to ensure the company is progressing and meeting the expectations of shareholders.

The act of decision making can be defined as choosing one alternative over all the others. This process implies there are multiple ways to accomplish a goal, and that one of these options was chosen because it is the most viable method of achieving success. However, a person’s own values, desires and lifestyle all colour their decision-making capabilities, which can radically affect how a company chooses the right alternative.

Once we have discovered how we are affected by issues of the past, we need to reach to a point where we make the ultimate decision to seek help. The earlier it is done the better and so let us look at some possible ways to conquer this while it is still at childhood level.


 Children who have experienced a trauma need the adults in their lives to take these five steps:

  1. Immediately address the trauma.
  2. Reframe the world as a safe place
  3. Develop a sense of self-efficacy and control
  4. Engage professionals to help process the trauma
  5. Teach children to modulate their stress response
  6. Build self-esteem


As adults, there are various ways to deal with unresolved childhood trauma. Here are some:

  1. Acknowledge and recognize the trauma for what it is
  2. Reclaim control
  3. Seek support and don’t isolate yourself
  4. Take care of your health
  5. Learn the true meaning of acceptance and letting go
  6. Replace bad habits with good ones
  7. Be patient with yourself

 If unresolved, childhood trauma has a major toll on our adult lives and is affecting our decision-making, it is important to take the time to review our life, habits and factors affecting our decision-making so as to make better choices in the future.

 My hope is that this article has best-informed us for treatment and recovery moving forward and till next week for our final part of this addition, enjoy the content we have here for you.



Sharon Mukuze-Mdaya Having experienced child sexual abuse, Sharon made a decision to derive strength from the ordeal. She penned her emotions and all that writing developed into a book which is set to be published soon. In the book, she shares some of her intimate experiences in the hope that it will aid fellow survivors and her readers to open up about their experiences and in turn ignite healing. Though born and raised in Zimbabwe, Sharon is now based in South Africa with her two children. She partners with some organisations which assist young girls and women in similar situations. Her workshops are designed to help survivors process the trauma that comes with sexual abuse. Although she is still new in the writing and speaking/training game, she believes that she has a lot to offer her readers and audience. She is determined to see many find their breakthrough in reading her content.